Moving Beyond Self-Judgement

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“I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.” – Aristotle

Sadly many of us constantly judge ourselves in a terrible and self-critical way.  For some it is so intense, this constant toxic thinking only creates an internal world of pain, and can validate feelings of inadequacy and never feeling good enough.

Having experienced this in my own life, and also from those who have been courageous to have shared their stories, this thinking style seems to be a common trap for many of us.  Despite how long we may have listened to the rules and regulations of our inner-critic, there will always come a time when we feel enough is enough.  Once armed with our faith, hope and determination, we can work towards change, and ignite our internal can and will power so we can re-wire any unhelpful and negative based thoughts that no longer serve any purpose.

Although this sounds easy, it is incredibly difficult to change neural pathways that have been set in a certain way for so long.  It is a hard goal to achieve, however small goals and steps over time will achieve results.  Results that allow us to see our brave changes, and invite more feelings to encourage and empower us to keep going, and to let go of self-defeating thoughts that only deplete us.  When we stop and listen to the guidance and wisdom from the heart, we are more able to not listen to the self-judgement and critical thinking, and focus energy to enjoy feelings of love, compassion and joy.

It actually fascinates me how those who lack confidence and self-esteem tend to see the beauty and perfection in others, yet for their own life, they find it incredibly difficult to practice self-love, self-praise and provide that nourishing friend inside.  It is easy to understand why some that carry such a mean inner-critic, how they can end up with a broken heart. On a positive note, a broken heart can always be healed, and the only way is to LOVE.

So the goal ahead is to re-wire the old neural pathways that play the old scripts and only hurt our feelings.  The best goal we can set in our life is to allow uplifting thoughts of self-encouragement, love and understanding.  Let us leave behind any self-critical analysis, and move forward giving us the chance of a healthy and holistic life.

“Your Highest Self only wants you to be at peace.  It does not judge, compare, or demand that you defeat anyone or be better than anyone.” – Wayne Dyer

Give your life a gift, offer a beautiful compassionate friend inside, and start believing and encouraging the uniqueness that you already are in this one precious life that we have today.

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One thought on “Moving Beyond Self-Judgement

  1. Emma as a teacher I see self doubt in so many-especially girls between 15-18.
    Im so unsure how much of this will manufester in their adult life and complicate their relationships with others and most importantly themselves.
    This was powerful cause it lays out choices to change or continue. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome…..we all must be insane, until we stop!!!!
    A beautiful piece.


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